While Googling for pictures to take to my stylist, I found this from Toothpaste for Dinner.
Is it true? Yes. Does it have to be????
I guess what I had in mind was this quote I hate but still remember the first time I heard, so it obviously had an impact.
"You might take a careful inventory of your habits, your speech, your appearance, and your eccentricities, if you have them. Take each item and analyze it. What do you like in others? What personality traits please you in others? Are your dresses too short, too long, too revealing, too old-fashioned? Do you laugh raucously? Are you too selfish? Are you interested only in your own interests or do you project yourself into the lives of others? Do you have annoying mannerisms? … Do you repeat old stories till they are threadbare? Are you too anxious or too disinterested? Can you make some sacrifices to be acceptable? Are you dull or are you too exuberant? Are you flashy or are you disinteresting? What do you do to make yourself desirable? Do you overdo or underdo? Too much makeup or too little? Scrupulously clean both physically and morally?
“What are your eccentricities, if any? I think nearly all people have some. If so, then go to work. Classify them, weigh them, corral them, and eliminate one at a time until you are a very normal person” (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, ed. Edward L. Kimball [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1982], pp. 295-96).
Doesn't it seem like we are all told to be the same? That we need to eliminate those things that make us individual to be desireable to others? That I really could, if I thought hard enough, figure out what is "wrong" with me and why I'm not married? I don't really believe this about my bangs or anything else, I think it's more of a feeling with the right person rather than a checklist of qualities, that some great people will never get married (I have far too many wonderful single friends to question their efforts or worthiness).
Please...correct me if I'm wrong...Or don't, maybe this post was just for my sanity and to talk through some ideas in my head, maybe I just need a personal private journal for some of my thoughts. Still figuring out the level of disclosure I want in my blog.